I just into a heated argument with a colleague about Plastic Surgery.
I noticed it was getting heated because my voice became alittle shrill and I was on the verge of throwing a chair over the other side. My colleague was not at fault at all, I was just annoyed that she didn't understand my point of view. I love the girl but I love my opinion alot more.
So anyway, here's a flashback:
Miss K: Omg, there's girls as young as 18 going overseas getting plastic surgery.
Me: Yeh I know, I read somewhere that lots of girls are getting surgery before they go to university so that noone will know its fake.
Miss K: Oh really?
Me: I have nothing against people getting plastic surgery if it means they feel better about themselves when they step out the door. Nothings wrong with being happy about yourself.
Miss K: That's not what I think. I get annoyed that these girls want to be like those perfect beings in the media. I hate those girls who start with one surgery then go on for more to become freaks... like Michael Jackson.
At this point, I was sorta annoyed. Firstly, I have nothing against plastic surgery. I believe that some girls and guys aren't blessed with everything they want. Some girls are naturally well-endowed who can walk out with minimal effort but there are other girls who won't wear a dress because they feel like a troll. Some of these girls have such low self esteem, they walk with their heads down hoping no one will notice them and for sure, they believe that no one WILL look at them. I'm sure you've heard the saying that life is so short... the earth itself is millions and millions of years old, and each human life is worth 100 years...if that. It's a pretty small amount of time to be alive. Why would someone want to waste a quarter of their life (namely 10yrs-35yrs) on being unhappy with they way their bodies are?
I can say this because I also have low self-esteem. I am never happy with my body, always seeing fat on arms, legs or tummy. I am never going to walk out completely barefaced, even on the day I die, the make up artist will make me up the way I am now (except i'd be alot older lol). I get people telling me that I look great and I'm not fat and prehaps I know thats true but the fact remains that it IS inside my head... it is very hard to change. So if it is that hard for me, it must be 100x harder for someone who IS physically not as perfect. I know I know... "Every person is beautiful in their own way..." this may be true when YOU look at other people, but it is certainly not true in the mind of the low-self-esteem person.
So Miss K says: Everyone is beautiful, you should just tell them to try think more positive about themselves. You should go out without your makeup, you'll change your attitude.
This infuriated me more. IF I can't even take my makeup off for myself, how can I do that in front of other people. I'll feel exposed and out-in-view for other people to mock and judge me. "Oh she's got uneven skintone" "Oh she's got dark eyebags" "Oh omg never knew she had pimple scars"... Make up covers this for me and I can shine when I talk to other people. I speak and act with confidence.
Imagine someone who doesn't even have the courage to put on makeup because they feel so inferior. Or prehaps the girl with small flat boobs that is so insecure that she wears baggy clothing when what she really wants is a nice tube dress. That's all she thinks about.
Michael Jackson, ok I'm not saying what he did was right and SANE but he was hating his black skin. He probably thought about having lighter skin day and night. So when he achieved lighter skin, I'm sure he was much happier and felt that life was actually more interesting now. Although he had so much money and so much fame that he did go overboard. This is not the case to the average person.
So don't judge someone who has worked hard and saved up enough money to prettify themselves. Its exactly the same as you buying makeup from a department store. If I had enough money, who says I wouldn't change any part of me. I'd get a nose job (since I'm asian... and am endowed with what I call a PETITE nose) and prehaps a boob job if I could. I want to wear a tube top without the fear that it might slide down my stomach. I want to wear a bikini and fill it out, I want to be one of those girls that other girls point to and say "wow.. she looks so hot".
The important thing is being happy. If you are happy, you should do it. Don't waste your life on being depressed. Although this does not glorify those who abuse plastic surgery, cos I don't stand for that.
So anyway, here's a flashback:
Miss K: Omg, there's girls as young as 18 going overseas getting plastic surgery.
Me: Yeh I know, I read somewhere that lots of girls are getting surgery before they go to university so that noone will know its fake.
Miss K: Oh really?
Me: I have nothing against people getting plastic surgery if it means they feel better about themselves when they step out the door. Nothings wrong with being happy about yourself.
Miss K: That's not what I think. I get annoyed that these girls want to be like those perfect beings in the media. I hate those girls who start with one surgery then go on for more to become freaks... like Michael Jackson.
At this point, I was sorta annoyed. Firstly, I have nothing against plastic surgery. I believe that some girls and guys aren't blessed with everything they want. Some girls are naturally well-endowed who can walk out with minimal effort but there are other girls who won't wear a dress because they feel like a troll. Some of these girls have such low self esteem, they walk with their heads down hoping no one will notice them and for sure, they believe that no one WILL look at them. I'm sure you've heard the saying that life is so short... the earth itself is millions and millions of years old, and each human life is worth 100 years...if that. It's a pretty small amount of time to be alive. Why would someone want to waste a quarter of their life (namely 10yrs-35yrs) on being unhappy with they way their bodies are?
I can say this because I also have low self-esteem. I am never happy with my body, always seeing fat on arms, legs or tummy. I am never going to walk out completely barefaced, even on the day I die, the make up artist will make me up the way I am now (except i'd be alot older lol). I get people telling me that I look great and I'm not fat and prehaps I know thats true but the fact remains that it IS inside my head... it is very hard to change. So if it is that hard for me, it must be 100x harder for someone who IS physically not as perfect. I know I know... "Every person is beautiful in their own way..." this may be true when YOU look at other people, but it is certainly not true in the mind of the low-self-esteem person.
So Miss K says: Everyone is beautiful, you should just tell them to try think more positive about themselves. You should go out without your makeup, you'll change your attitude.
This infuriated me more. IF I can't even take my makeup off for myself, how can I do that in front of other people. I'll feel exposed and out-in-view for other people to mock and judge me. "Oh she's got uneven skintone" "Oh she's got dark eyebags" "Oh omg never knew she had pimple scars"... Make up covers this for me and I can shine when I talk to other people. I speak and act with confidence.
Imagine someone who doesn't even have the courage to put on makeup because they feel so inferior. Or prehaps the girl with small flat boobs that is so insecure that she wears baggy clothing when what she really wants is a nice tube dress. That's all she thinks about.
Michael Jackson, ok I'm not saying what he did was right and SANE but he was hating his black skin. He probably thought about having lighter skin day and night. So when he achieved lighter skin, I'm sure he was much happier and felt that life was actually more interesting now. Although he had so much money and so much fame that he did go overboard. This is not the case to the average person.
So don't judge someone who has worked hard and saved up enough money to prettify themselves. Its exactly the same as you buying makeup from a department store. If I had enough money, who says I wouldn't change any part of me. I'd get a nose job (since I'm asian... and am endowed with what I call a PETITE nose) and prehaps a boob job if I could. I want to wear a tube top without the fear that it might slide down my stomach. I want to wear a bikini and fill it out, I want to be one of those girls that other girls point to and say "wow.. she looks so hot".
The important thing is being happy. If you are happy, you should do it. Don't waste your life on being depressed. Although this does not glorify those who abuse plastic surgery, cos I don't stand for that.
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