No such thing as a short term happiness.

Are you in love?

How are you so sure that he is the one you are going to spend the next 50 years with? 

Ok sure, it feels right, it feels like you've known him for ages.. yeh yeh all that shit. I've heard this all before, hell, I've even been the one to say it. My previous relationship was so bad that I was constantly trying to convince other people that "it was okay" so that I would be convinced of it myself. I was young and naive at that time, believing that I'd met my soulmate and we'd live happily ever after.

Because he was my very first boyfriend, he knew he could take advantage of me. This one moment stood in my memory, ingrained into my brain forever. He was taking me to his house from my house and on the freeway, we had an argument about my sister. Before I get on to that, this is conversation involving my sister that started my "realization" if you must call it something:

(Miss A and I were driving to a nearby shopping center)

Miss A: Hey your phone just got a message, since you're driving, want me to message him back?

Me: Yeh sure. What does the message say?

Miss A: It says "I'm Hungry"

Me: Message him and ask him what he wants for dinner, we'll pick up something for him while we're at the shopping center.

Miss A: *messages that*

Ex: I want TWO pies. The largest one possible.

** the inside joke here was that Miss A and I were on strict diets and he could eat whatever he wanted as he was a man with infinite metabolism**

Me: Ah! What nerve! *laughs*

Miss A: Lets write back "Du ma you :) hahaha"  (du ma = means fuck your mother in vietnamese but is used as frequently as Fuck You is used)

Me: Yeh!

Minutes later, we recieved a pretty funny message.

Ex: What the fuck did you just say? How dare you diss my mother. Fuck you too.

Me: What? 

Miss A: What?

Me: Write back and ask him what the hell that meant. It was a joke. oh my god...

Ex: So you think its funny to diss my mother? You think it's all a joke to you huh? Fuck you too.

We were walking around in the shopping center with the biggest blank looks on our faces. It was so... unreal.

After that, he "broke up" with him, only to call back several days later and demand an apology. He treated Miss A so badly after that, ignoring her presence when in fact, it had nothing to do with her. IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING. This jerk just made it all up in his head... the whole world was against him. God, that makes me laugh. If I was still with him, I'd be the biggest, dumbest fool there ever was.

So anyway, back to the original story. In the car to his house, the argument regarding Miss A resurfaced and before I know it, I was yelling, he was yelling... in a fit of anger I told him that his car was a piece of shit and that it would be sold because it's worth shit-all.

What happened afterwards took me by complete surprise... I just never thought a person would do this. He turned his car off the freeway and headed back to my place, telling me that he didn't want to see me for the weekend. Then he proceeded to yell at me to APOLOGISE TO HIS CAR. 

Umm...

No way.

I can barely apologise to another human being let alone to your car?

So I did the next best thing possible, as I got out of his car, I slammed the door and kicked it with my 4 inch heels. 

I walked away with the biggest smile on my face.

Long live Yvonne! :)

So the point of this post was to say that, even if you feel that you are happy or in love, please please look around. You may not notice the bad signs but other people can see it and will often tell you. So be a smart girl, open your eyes and note for yourself that if there is something bad, let it go. Holding on will do you no good. 

If you are happy only in the short term, chances are high that long term you will be unhappy. 

Life is way too short to waste on things like short term happiness, think ahead and mould your own future. 

DO NOT LET OTHER PEOPLE DETERMINE YOU.