GIRLS WHO STAY WITH MEN THAT CHEAT.

Girls who stay with men who cheat.

Went blogsurfing today and I came across a blog with a girl who was obviously suffering the effects of subjecting herself to a partner that was probably unfaithful. This is what she said:

"I cant stand being around you because each time that I'm with you, it reminded me that you were doing the exact same thing with her."

So I assume she is still with him. Look this is not a dig at her at all. I know personally, perhaps way too personally that there are people who still want to be with their unfaithful partners. These people will be sad, they will lose sleep over that lack of trust they have for their partners but wake up all happy for a short amount of time.

You, stupid girls, will try to make excuses for him. This is natural. You have a sense of hope that what happened... didn't really happen. I'm sorry to pop your bubble but it did. These excuses are so annoying, especially since you stupid girls give the same advice to your friends but can't manage to swallow your OWN advice.

"As long as I'm happy right now, it's all that matters".

It is actually not. It is NOT all that matters. IF you are only happy right now what will your future be like. Is it okay to be sad then? I don't think that it is "alright" to have distrust in a relationship, especially a relationship built on the foundations of lies. If he cared enough for you, he wouldn't have treated you like this. What I don't understand is that, WHY can you just put aside the REASON why you were sad in the first place? Is it because when you are happy, all the bad stuff just magically "didn't happen" and he suddenly only sees YOU in his eyes? Thats bullshit. If he cared enough to keep you happy, he wouldn't have cheated in the first place.

In summary: If he came back to you, he doesn't love you over everything. He knows you will always be his Backup Plan B.

"I want to keep seeing him, sooner or later I'll get sick of his ways and I'll end up leaving him!"

This is actually the worst. I wasted so many tears and unsleepable nights on trying to explain myself to an important person in my life.

This is pure denial.

You are not confronting the problem. You are putting the problem somewhere at the back of your mind and hoping like hell that it doesn't resurface again. Sooner or later, you will get burnt by this. You are just holding on to hope that he will miraculously change his spots and become the dream man that you will marry.

BUT if he has cheated before then he will cheat again. I'm not saying that all men who cheat are serial cheaters but once you realise HOW EASY it is to cheat on someone and HOW EASY you can get away with it and HOW EASY the girl will come back to you DESPITE what you did... then why wouldn't you cheat again?
It's just common sense.

In summary: If you put this problem away and not address it, you will always be his Backup Plan B.

"I know he cheated on me but he is changing for me."

I don't get what the confusion is. Yes, he SAYS he is changing for you but have you seen it yet? Okay, so he says he loves and wants to change for you so why did he cheat in the first place. I can answer this for you, this guy cheated on you because he finds other females attractive, he would sacrifice what you have in your RELATIONSHIP for a good night of fun. I don't think there is a logical reason to stay with a guy who decided that another woman was worth the pain it will cause you.

He is selfish. He can only think of himself and his own desires. And let me tell you, the person that he truly desires is NOt you. It is every other skank he sees. He may hug you and kiss you and tell you that you are so hard to leave and therefore he has realised "once and for all" that YOU are the one for him.

Why... why for god's sake would you believe that? Didn't you believe, for the first time, that he wanted to be with you and only you? So don't fall for it.

In summary: The person he desires isn't ONLY you... he is selfish.

Now here's another thought, how can you be so sure that it has only been the ONE cheating time?

So you are a pretty girl with MANY MANY other people possibly wanting to be in a relationship with you. Why would you stoop so LOW to be someone's BACKUP PLAN. Why not be the queen in someones eyes, the Lady Evangeline in Casanova's life.

If you are staying with your man for the wrong reasons, if you are with him knowing that he is with other women at the same time but keep giving him excuses, I've got one thing to say:

I PITY YOU. I FEEL SO SORRY FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE DUMB.